As a marriage and relationship counselor, I advise my clients to know when to walk away when the relationship/marriage no longer serve their purpose especially in a toxic relationship/marriage.
Relationships form the basis of meaning in our lives and not just your interpersonal relationships but even the relationships we have with our jobs or our identities or our possessions.
Our relationship with each other carry an extra special weight because humans rely on our lives to survive.
When you walk out of a relationship that is very important to you, you kind of lose a part of you, you feel empty, you lose the perception of who you truly are, your purpose, your confidence, some people lose the zeal to continue living, some people’s esteem level drops considerably.
Cry if you must, this will help you release the pain and can also help in the healing process.
I understand all the hurts of letting go of someone you love and care about, it is extremely difficult.
Trust me wallowing in this kind of mind set will not do you any good and wont change anything either.
Biggest mistake some of us make is deciding to stay in a relationship that we are being maltreated and abused thinking we will be able to save our partner.
Do not remain in a relationship when you are not respected, valued and appreciated because you are scared of being single. Being Single has never killed anyone but being in a toxic relationship/marriage has.
The sooner you realise that the only person you can change in this entire universe is Yourself, the better it will be for you.
Change has to come from within, you can not change who is not ready to change.
Some relationships are just a total waste of time, energy and resources. Completely irreparable.
If you are stuck in a toxic relationship/marriage, please know you can find the inner strength to leave and move on.
It takes more than Love to make a relationship work. Love is not enough when you are not getting it in return.
Stop wasting years being with a toxic person that does not deserve your loyalty, this will only prevent the right person from coming your way.
Time they say, heal all wounds. Give yourself time to heal. Rediscover and focus on yourself and less on the situation. Believe in yourself.
Live for the present and not the past, dust up yourself, accept what has happened.
Lessons learnt. Move on!
“Sometimes, good things fall apart so better things can fall together “-Marilyn Monroe.
Do not allow the fear of being alone petrify you especially when you have tried everything to save that relationship.
Walk away while you still can Now and not when you have completely lost yourself in it.