Horrible mistakes are being made by men, situations that has been recycling itself from our great grandparents. From the look of things the issue is still spreading like fire, and it is not in a hurry to stop because of the high rate of divorce in our society.
A man lived abroad for like eight years while he left his wife back home with four children, the poor woman was into petty trading, struggling to make ends meet. It was very tough for this woman who is a graduate but could not fit into a proper job because she needed to care for the children as well. There is no day she speaks to her husband that she does not end up crying, the man will say all the sermon about how he is suffering abroad and that he is not making any money. Meanwhile this same man has been working two jobs and sending the money to his elder brother to bank for him. After eight years Mr John made up his mind to return back home with the hope that he had enough money to start up a good business when he gets back home. To Mr John’s dismay, the brother gave him all the useless stories in this world without giving him a dime, from Mr John’s calculations he had over ten million with his brother apart from the monthly pocket money he gives to him. Life was turned upside down for him, matters became worst when the wife knew about it, she felt so bad and betrayed.
Family is Mr Shola who has three children and was separated from the wife and has refused to play his financial role towards his children because he does not love their mother again and he desperately wants to see her suffer. Mr Shola refuses to see the fact that his children are equally suffering because of his actions, the mother of the children is mentally, financially and psychologically stressed and thereby not able to carry out her duties properly. The help she needs from the man is not fort coming, not because of lack of resources but out of nonchalant attitude. Thereby making the children live in penury and anguish.
We have seen situations where a rich man dies and that ends good life for the children because the man’s family steps in to take over all that belongs to him. In most cases the woman is busy taking care of the home because that is what the man wants, but he forgets that life is in God’s hand. When the woman tries to complain he will be like, don’t I provide you with everything you need? What else do you want? Excuse me! She needs more than that, every woman needs to be doing something solid because we are in different seasons. In case things goes wrong she will be able to step in.
Husbands learn to collaborate with your wives, do not let your hard work be in vain, if it was possible for some men to rise from there grave to see how their children and wife are suffering after their death, they will plan better, a lot of these children’s destiny are cut short, some can not cope with the hardship.
There are different ways to go about this, you can do a fixed deposit for your children and wife. Which they can have access to when the unexpected happens. For the ones that are divorced or separated, please do not suffer the innocent children for something they know nothing about, look for a way to play your financial and emotional role in their lives, no matter how bad you think your ex wife is, the truth is she is still the best person that can take care of your children for you. Do not allow people to deceive you. You are free and allowed to get angry but not towards to innocent children and even if they decide to move with their mother, my dear that woman stands a hundred per cent chance of bringing them up well. Your sentiments are real but in this case it will not do a good job. Men learn to put your house together. Children are your heritage and they will answer for you in your old age. Children need your hugs and support. Learn from the stories above, if your child is up to fifteen years, let him into your business, make him your friend start teaching him real issues of life. A lot of men die without the wife and children knowing that they have uncomplicated building somewhere, it is very sad and the narrative needs to be changed.